TRAINED TO LIE
I have heard many women accuse us men as being "pathetic liars" and sadly they are correct.Its a mechanism we use to avoid confrontation or be on the defensive.
A closer look at the conversation for me reveals its a tough thing for us to avoid lying as that's how we have been programmed from way back.
Most boys from age 4 upwards start to hear the words " men don't cry,suck it up and man up.The aim is to toughen up boys but the reality is that we instruct them to deny the pain, hurt or emotional discomfort.
So we grow up learning how to suppress,hide or even deny our true situation so as to appear Confident,strong and "in control".
So we are wired from early to "live in denial" about our reality and put up a front.That is why many men will tell you what you want to hear and not the reality.
If we are honest with ourselves,we will admit that the present male dysfunction is ignorantly crafted by our up bringing, culture and societal expectations.
I will always insist it's hypocritical to judge the "men" we created.I believe it's time we redefine our concept of being a man and raise strong, confident and mature boys who don't have to deny the reality of their situations.
Thank you for raising a different man in your home.
[Source: @dejiirawo]
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