WHAT EVERY MAN SHOULD LEARN ABOUT LIFE

A lot of times, people do not know the twists and turns that could turn up in life and how to handle them. A wrong response from you can put you at a long term disadvantage but handling them well can make your life flow smoothly. Please read this true life story below and learn from it.
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In 2010 I was a senior manager in a nice firm, my future was bright in the company and I was highly recommended for head of my department. There was a rising star as well, his name is Jacob. I tutored him and tried to manage his excesses because he was exceptionally brilliant. But, he was lazy and carefree. Hardly would he take corrections and rarely would he apologise.

My other colleagues wondered what I saw in him, but they weren’t working directly with him. I knew his type: he hated structure and would never last under a corporate environment. Still, he was a brilliant strategist. I handled him well and our results together with others on my team was highly commendable.

There came a time I was having marital issues and for this reason, I had little patience with Jacob and his shenanigans. I was short-tempered with him but he had gotten used to me managing his excesses, he didn’t take my anger seriously. In two weeks, I had given him 3 queries. This meant dismissal and when I was asked by HR if I truly wanted to let him go, I could not care less. I had my own problems and was not in the mood to babysit anyone.

Three years later, I lost my job because the company was downsizing and top management was affected. I foolishly assumed I would get a job anywhere so initially, I wasn’t worried. But 12 months in, I was still searching and my savings was dwindling fast. I decided, since I wasn’t getting any job, I’d drive my SUV as a cab to those commuting from the airport. This was better than waiting around for nothing…

The cab job surprisingly was not doing badly as I was picking up and dropping off esteemed clients. It wasn’t a lot of money but it was steady.

In July 2016, an esteemed client asked me to pick up his friend from the airport because his driver had flaked on him. This person I was to pick up would turn out to be Jacob. When he called to confirm his location, I instantly recognised his voice. My heart plunged but I wasn’t going to reject the job and disappoint a long-term client. Jacob exited the airport with only a hand luggage so there was no need for me to alight from the car. As he got in the car, I looked back from the driver’s seat to greet him but he was distracted on the phone and never looked up to notice me. He only answered my greeting and asked me to get going

As I drove him all the way to a hotel on the Island, I had tears in my eyes. He looked like he was doing well, his conversations on the phone also showed that he was in control. Jacob had done well for himself and I was now driving him. Life is tricky and has a way of making you the butt of its joke. I cannot lie that I was ashamed but I would never forgive myself if I let him go without letting him know I was proud of him.

We got to the hotel and I quickly got down from the car to open his door. This was when he noticed me. He was speechless for a while then he said in Yoruba “Oga you have been the one driving me since?” He was shocked at first but then he hugged me tight. The tears finally poured, I can’t really say what I felt but I know I didn’t expect his reaction.

“I heard you were let go, I sent you a message on my other number to find out how you were but you never responded”He said while still holding on to my shoulders

I remember receiving a message from him but he was one out of many that called or texted to pity me. I didn’t want anyone’s pity so I never responded.

Jacob made me park my car and took me in to his room to talk. He immediately told me about his new gig. After he was laid off, he got a consultation deal with a multinational which opened doors for him in other multinationals. Now, he has 15 people working for him but he was in desperate need of someone who does the same as him and he didn’t have to worry about their competence. He just wanted to focus more on bringing business to the company.

My life changed that day. I resumed work with Jacob in one week and I have made sure since then to treat his company as if it were mine.

I don’t know why he treated me so nicely after what I did to him but as men, we have never talked about it. I am sure though, that he can feel my gratitude in the way I work and my zeal in doing all I can to make sure he doesn’t have to worry about the back-end.

I hope someone learns from this. lf the world turns upside down, you may end up cleaning for your cleaner. Please always remember this when you act without consideration of the other person’s future.

ANONYMOUS

SELF-TALK FOR MONDAY

What you say to yourself is called self-talk. Self-talk plays a vital role in our lives. I find the one below very powerful and engaging. Please read aloud to yourself.
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I affirm that I am reigning in life. The blessing of the Lord has made my fame to spread abroad. I am like the city that is set on the hill, I can never be hid by the economic downturn of the world.

I am mightily blessed of the Lord and out of my belly flows prosperity, joy, health, peace, and success.

No man can successfully work to my disadvantage because all things are fashioned to work together for my good.

I am so blessed and nothing is permitted to fail in my hands. Hallelujah!

My address is Christ therefore, I refuse to be perturbed about anything because in Christ, all things are mine.

I am built strong and established firmly in the faith as I walk in the light of God's blessings for my life.

I am the centre of God's operation in the earth; through me, the nations of the world are blessed.
[Source: Chris Oyakhilome]

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A SHOCKING EXPERIENCE

Just got to Abuja from Benin and it was raining heavy. Had to walk to the CarPark. Nigeria is the only country I have seen airports without elevator and a good and functional structure that lead you to carpark. Anyway, I saw these guys with umbrella  they come and walk you to the car park with their umbrella and you pay.

I sighted Allhassan, 10year old with umbrella he came and started walking me. I was very curious to see a young boy like that doing such a job but he spoke fluent English so I ask him if he's going to school and when will he resume school; " Next Week" he answered.

I sense he was too Intelligent for his age hence I probe more: How much do you make daily working at the airport? ; " 3000 Daily and I use it to sponsor myself to school" he replied. I was so marvelled! I ask again; " Where are your parent and why are you doing this instead of them.To this he replied; " My Dad and Mum are alive.My Dad has lost his job. We are 7children and I am the oldest hence I had to go out and work". My heart almost top! I further ask; How many wives does your father have? He replied; " Two Wives, One just left remaining My Mother.

10Year Old but responsible for his schooling,yet we have grown up sitting at home and blaming government. Even his father is sitting at home and his 10year old had common sense to go out and bring something. Some Men are infidels as bible call them.

look at the picture again! Why must his father sit idle because he lost his job and allow his kids go do such job? Why must he marry two wives and have 7kids in 10years? The answer is Foolish Religious practices ans cultural practices. We are in the Era of Bastard parents who choose laziness instead of responsibility and we are about to produce a worst generation of Graduates who worship certificate instead of prioritizing skills. If you ask me, "What's your skill"? My answer is fast and simple; Marketing and sales. That skill I develop informally because my first degree is Microbiology. So why will you finish school and there is no job in Microbiology yet alot of marketing job are begging to be filled and you say NO. it's the defination of insanity to continue to do same thing over and over again and expect a different result.

How can the failed generation change?

1)Get Any legal Job you find. idleness is the devils workshop and a man that cannot provide for his family is worst than an infidel. Get a job and it has nothing to do with your decree and there is no job you can't learn. I use to and am still a very shy and private person. I couldn't event talk to one person growing up but hard to learn to talk and market to people because I didn't want to fail my Family and this Generation. I AM forever grateful I went into marketing. Don't say there are no job. We have many jobs,we just don't have the one the old university curriculum incompetently certify you on. 

2)Start Small. Life is in phases,Men are in sizes live your size per time. Start Small,Think Big and grow fast. In Life, you are never permitted to start big but only to think big and move fast towards the big picture in your mind. we keep having failed generations because people are no longer sincere and realistic. We love to live in fantasy and become burden to friends and family. My wedding had less than 20people in attendance. No Asoebi  burden was placed on anyone so that the day you do wedding and I don't buy your asoebi. Don't Querry me because I never ask you to buy mine. I did a small wedding and forever grateful I did because no pressure on anyone. Fast forward 5years latter, how many people remember my wedding nor the food or cloth or venue? What everyone remember is the impact,increases  and the peace we are enjoying.

3)Use Your Brain,God gave you a brain so that he can rest.Religion has suspended some people's brain. Think before having children. family planning is part of the reason God gave man brain. know the number of kids that's easy for you to train. Stop spreading your seed without planning how to nurture them. Use your brain to think and manufacture  value you can exchange for cash if you dont have a Job. Find a platform to learn and relearn skills that are more relevant to 21st century productivity in the work place. Stand Up for yourself. you owe it to yourself to believe in yourself and succeed. No Man owe you anything even your parent. They might have been responsible for where you are now but not for where you are going. what happen after now is yout Fault.You have to take personal responsibility for the outcome of your life. Even a 10year old Allhassan knows if he will go to school,during holiday, he has to raise his own funds; 3000daily is over 80,000Monthly.There is money on the street and no more funds in the AC tight offices.A 10Year Old Boy knows That. How about you an adult? Be responsible today!

Sharing this with so much love in my heart and I pray God help us all to be providers for our family and not just seed spreaders.

Stephen Akintayo. 

UNGUARDED MATERIAL DESIRE

You may be amazed to know what goes on in our world today in the quest to all our needs have met. That simple desire is the reason behind corruption, murders, robberies, ritual killings and human trafficking. Sometimes, we are even shocked to know learn that people who often engage in these evils already have so much.

Covetousness is the desire for more, whether we need it or not. And many times, covetousness comes with its price; it would require us to do things that we would ordinarily not do, just to get more than we need. Maybe today, you are where you are because you wanted a little more than you needed. Maybe the same people who applauded you and encouraged you along that path have now abandoned you, because things did not work out. They left you stranded, and you have no idea of where to begin again. Not so with God. In Hebrews 13, the word of God says “Don't be obsessed with getting more material things. Be relaxed with what you have. Since God assured us, "I'll never let you down, never walk off and leave you," we can boldly say ‘God is there, ready to help; I'm fearless no matter what. Who or what can get to me?

This day that God has made, I understand that you may not have all that you want, but God has promised to supply all your need I urge you to find contentment with whatever it is that God has blessed you with, because he will never leave you or forsake you. Don’t let covetousness make you do evil; the same God who gave manna to two million people in the wilderness is able to supply, and he will not leave you stranded.
[Source: Ben & Kay Akhigbe II]

FINDING TRUE PEACE AS A MAN

God chose us before the foundation of the world to be holy and without blame before Him in love, and predestined us to be accepted in His presence. It’s part of what His righteousness in our spirits has produced for us; we can boldly stand in the presence of God without guilt, inferiority or condemnation.

No matter where you’ve been, what you’ve done, how deep in the thraldom or valley of sin you’ve been, you’re accepted in Christ Jesus. You don’t have to run from God, because of your sins. Imagine His gracious invitation in Isaiah 1:18; He said, "Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool." He’s not mad at you. Submit to His righteousness. Embrace His love. Trust Him with your life, and He’ll make your life glorious.

Now that you’re born again, you’re in Christ; He’s already accepted you; you’re in Him. You dwell in His presence. In His presence, you’re at liberty; you don’t have to be afraid; you’re free to express yourself and be yourself. You’re at liberty to function for Him and live for Him.

Some people are still living their lives in hope that God will accept them based on their good works. But that’s not going to work! The Bible says, "For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast" (Ephesians 2:8-9). Furthermore, Galatians 2:16 says, "...by the works of the law shall no flesh be justified"; that means accepted and declared righteous before God!
You don’t have to feel insecure or uncertain about your standing with God. Be bold, confident, assured and glad that you belong to Him; that He brought you into oneness with Himself.
[Source: Chris Oyakhilome]

YOU CAN BE REPAIRED!

When you receive a product you have ordered through the mail, it may arrive damaged. You have to return it to the manufacturer for repair. Your life is the same way. Sometimes the painful experiences have left us damaged. Only God can truly repair us. Don't be afraid of God. Dare to reach for Him. He loves you far more than you will ever know.
[Source: Mike Murdock]

LOCATED FOR A PURPOSE

You are geographically designed. This means that your nationality, your race, sex and even where you were born were decided by God. You are geographically assigned. This means there is a place, a city, a location where God wants you. There...is where you will flourish and succeed. Elijah was sent to the brook. There he was reassigned to the widow of Zarephath. Each Instruction From God Is Linked To Your Assignment. Your financial provision is waiting for you at the place where God has assigned you.

[Source: Mike Murdock]

THE KEY TO YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE

When God created you, He gave you certain gifts and talents to accomplish something He wanted you to do. We call that an "Assignment." The Problem That Infuriates You The Most Is Often The Problem God Has Assigned You To Solve. Everything God creates is a solution to something. You are a life-jacket to someone drowning. Find them. Those Who Unlock Your Compassion Are Those To Whom You Have Been Assigned.
[Source: Mike Murdock]

ENGAGE THE POWER OF ORDER

Order Is Simply The Accurate Arrangement of Things. Your car is parked in your garage. Your clothes hang orderly in your closet. When you increase Order, (the accurate arrangement of people and events) you increase your productivity. Plan your day carefully. Unplanned hours will always gravitate toward your weakness. Unplanned days are unproductive days. Unplanned days are incubators for your greatest mistakes.

"Let all things be done decently and in order," 
(1 Corinthians 14:40).
[Source: Mike Murdock]

HOW TO BE A MAN

Being male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of choice. You can't afford to miss this one day Men Intensive program featuring leading Male Technocrat, Deji Irawo, come 13th of August, 2016.
Hope to see you there!

FINDING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE

PURPOSE - Purpose is the INTENT of a thing. In other words, it is the reason behind an action.
"Why am i here?" is the question that unlocks the human purpose. Your life has an overall destination and every action you take ought to move you in that direction. However, if you do not have your purpose well defined within you, you may end up jumping all around the place with no positive progress to show for all your activities.

Purpose is Key to Producing Results
You don't just go about trying your hands on one thing after the other. Your activities should flow from a well defined purpose. Every great achiever first took time to spell out his purpose before he set out to pursue his dream. That's the order. The greatest leader of all time,Jesus, had this said about him, "for this PURPOSE..."

Purpose precedes Pursuit and your pursuits is what generates results. Many men are pursuing what they haven't purposed. They live day in, day out, just following crowd dynamics.
As a man, God has put your Purpose within your heart. However, you need to take time to look within you and draw it out. You need to look back, examine your life, and see the patterns of your life that show you your stenghts. Sometimes for some people, it just dawns on them what their life purpose is as they keep introspecting.
We will see more about finding purpose.
Have a great day!

Article written by: Edugbo Oronana Paul
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