Recognizing the difference between each gender is fundamental to improving the male-female relationship. Many a time, while courting or dating a lady, most men are usually conscious of this difference. However, after getting the lady's attention, after a while, it becomes a problem to maintain that initial stance.
WHY DO SOME MARRIAGES TURN SOUR?
Why do some marriages turn sour? Over-familiarity is one reason why most marriages eventually turn sour. That initial spark and romantic energy seems to disappear over time. Why is this so? I believe one of the reasons is "over-familiarity". We become so familiar with each other and consequently lose regard and respect for one another. The guy is no longer caring, while the woman is no longer respectful. The "See-finish Syndrome" takes root. So what happens thereafter? Things fall apart, and as Chinua Achebe, in his novel says,
" ...the center cannot hold".
Over-familiarity is at the root of most marital failure.
HOW DO WE SOLVE THE OVER-FAMILIARITY PROBLEM
A lot of people have settled for divorce as a solution to marital relationship breakdown. I don't think that's the best option. At the root of over-familiarity is a core problem. Do you know what it is? It's the loss of consciousness of the difference between males and females. Yes , you heard me right! Many married folks lose that consciousness and this eventually leads to what some have come to call "irreconcilable differences". The question is, are there truly any differences that are irreconcilable between two persons who were love birds in the early times?
ARE THERE REALLY DIFFERENCES THAT ARE IRRECONCILABLE?
I have seen and heard of a good number of marriages that were headed for the rocks but somehow, somewhere, the disaster was averted. What was the magic that saved it? Some of those marriages are today, shining examples and inspiration to others. In fact, if you were told that some of these couples had " irreconcilable differences" at a time, an irreconcilable argument could even break out between you and the person that told you!
BACK TO THE BASICS - APPRECIATING THE MALE-FEMALE DIFFERENCE
Man is a tripartite being. Man is a spirit, he has a soul and he lives in a body. Our body is the only part visible to our eyes and we thereby confine ourselves only to what we see. However, beyond what we see, are our spirit and souls.
The only part that is similar to both males and females is the spirit. The spirit of man is the real man. Man is a spirit. However, in terms of our physical bodies, there are 2 kinds of man, the male-man and the female-man.
TO BE CONTINUED ...
