ARE MEN REALLY TRAINED TO LIE?

TRAINED TO LIE

I have heard many women accuse us men as being "pathetic liars" and sadly they are correct.Its a mechanism we use to avoid confrontation or be on the defensive.

A closer look at the conversation for me reveals its a tough thing for us to avoid lying as that's how we have been programmed from way back.

Most boys from age 4 upwards start to hear the words " men don't cry,suck it up and man up.The aim is to toughen up boys but the reality is that we instruct them to deny the pain, hurt or emotional discomfort.

So we grow up learning how to suppress,hide or even deny our true situation so as to appear Confident,strong and "in control".

So we are wired from early to "live in denial" about our reality and put up a front.That is why many men will tell you what you want to hear and not the reality.

If we are honest with ourselves,we will admit that the present male dysfunction is ignorantly crafted by our up bringing, culture and societal expectations.

I will always insist it's hypocritical to judge the "men" we created.I believe it's time we redefine our concept of being a man and raise strong, confident and mature boys who don't have to deny the reality of their situations.

Thank you for raising a different man in your home.

[Source: @dejiirawo]

A CONFERENCE JUST FOR MEN

If you are a man, don't miss this conference for anything. It will help sharpen your edge as a man. Kindly share this information with as many males as you can.
Hear what a leading men's technocrat, Deji Irawo, has to say below:
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Interestingly many women have been wired to seek "confidence" as a very attractive quality in men.I very much agree that confidence is a great virtue that mature men should have but we need to look at that word carefully and how it relates to men.

So men have grown to ensure that they put up a confident outlook at "all times" so as not to appear weak especially when relating with women.

Many women say they desire an emotionally intimate relationship with males but feel put off if the "man" shows emotion or cries in the process,then they tell him to "man up",which means to proove he is masculine and not weak.

Asides from the fact that when you tell a man to man up,he might never totally open up to you again.The real conversation is ,how did society/culture programme women to be attracted to that "Macho" expression we call confidence?

Can i humbly submit that from my interface with men that the problem is with the misunderstanding of the word "confidence". Confidence in men is not the absence of fear or vulnerability like we have been trained to think, it's accepting the reality on ground and deciding to keep moving inspite of the obvious reality.

What we have done is to wrongly​ train men to deny the pain/feeling in the bid to appear "confident"This leads to the suppression of inner realities and the subsequent implosion men suffer.Confidence is the inner capacity to get up and go despite the obvious pain we feel.

Join us for 4 days of capacity development for men at the kingdom men network conference, kindly invite a man around you.

[Source: @dejiirawo]

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