Continued from part 1
We started talking about the
Power of Contemplation in our last article; we will continue from where we
stopped. Now every reasonable thinking woman believes in a man whose actions
produce quality results. But then quality results are the results of quality
thinking or contemplation. Women are more emotional but they can also think rationally.
Men are more rational but of course, they can be emotional. Both qualities are
important, hence man needs woman and woman needs man. However, in terms of family life, I believe the
reason man is the head of the home is because of the rational or contemplative
power bestowed on man by God, however, the woman’s input can greatly help to
fine tune the outcome of family decisions. The feminine advantage can balance
family decisions.
As the head of the home, you must
use your head. When your head stops working, the respect from your wife and
your kids starts waning .Therefore, you must learn to constantly use your
contemplative power as a man or you lose your respect in life. It’s been
estimated that human beings use less than 10% of their natural brain capacity.
The people, we call genius use less than
10% of their brain capacity. This means the generality or majority of persons
use just about 2-3% of their brain capacity. Talk about gross
under-utilisation! There is an awesome room for improvement in our
contemplative ability; we can and should improve our contemplative power. We
can become genius in our own right. If not world renowned, at least
family-renowned!
A study of society today reveals that we are at
greater advantage for developing mentally than in previous generations.
Technology has made it a thousand times easy for us to become genius in our own
right. But this is only if you as a man is willing to do so. Technology itself
will not confer it on you. You must rise up and use this advantage bestowed on
our generation to develop your contemplative power to become a star in your generation
or at least in your home or family. This is will cheaply guarantee your place
of dignity on the earth. However, in today’s world there are some hindrances
that stand on the way of most men to developing their contemplative power.
Let’s identify them.
Common hindrances to developing the
Power of Contemplation?
They in include the following:
- Weak mental habits
- Amorous affair
- Poor association
- Sexual fantasy
- Poor reading culture
- Low self-image
- Low self –esteem
- Religious mind- set
We
will now examine each of these habits
1. Weak
mental habits:
A
habit is a way of doing things that has become a way of life to you. Every man
has thinking habits—good or bad. Weak mental habits simply refer to ways of
thinking that are shallow. It is an approach to situations that is only surface
deep. The good news is that new thinking habits can be developed. But you must
commit to developing new thinking habits. It takes about 3 weeks to develop a
new habit and it involves commitment to doing things in the new way you want to
develop in you.
To
develop strong mental habits, commit yourself to spending time to think deeply
few minutes every day. This involves thinking about possible solutions, and
outcomes of what you are presently confronted with. Seeing things from
different angles. As you do this consistently daily, it will eventually become
a habit and the time will come when you will then do it spontaneously on
different issues at the same time. Remember it is not just taking action as a
man but engaging in quality contemplation that matters. So begin to develop
strong mental habit.
2. Amorous
Affairs:
These are affairs or acquaintances
that are geared towards sexual ends. They are sexually-motivated affairs. It
takes time to develop any affair, whether long term or short term, whether as a
single man or a married man. If you estimate the amount of mental energy you
use in pursuing amorous relationships, you will be amazed at how much of your
mental energy it consumes. The amount of contemplative energy that goes into
these pursuits limits the use of your thinking power towards more productive
ends. It limits mental productivity. The habit of disciplining yourself to one
affair (with your fiancé if you are unmarried or with your wife, if you are
married), helps to protect and conserve your mental power for more productive
ends including building personal discipline into you.
Dr Edugbo, O.P.
is a medical practitioner by profession, and has a ministry towards men. Over the
years, he has been involved in numerous medical, church, para-church,
non-governmental and corporate organizational work and development. He conducts
consultancy, speaking and training engagements for churches and corporate
organizations.
You
may reach him on 08130105533, pauledugbo@gmail.com
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